Comments on: Confliction http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/ Parenting, Homeschooling and Technology Mon, 08 Sep 2008 08:49:39 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Patty http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-71083 Patty Sun, 20 Apr 2008 18:48:25 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-71083 I can totally relate with your feelings. I work from home as well and am constantly feeling overwhelmed. I have tons of ideas but you know you can't do them all. You have to just set little goals and plug along and do what you can. I can totally relate with your feelings. I work from home as well and am constantly feeling overwhelmed. I have tons of ideas but you know you can’t do them all. You have to just set little goals and plug along and do what you can.

]]> By: Cindy M http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-70684 Cindy M Wed, 16 Apr 2008 16:09:49 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-70684 Shannon, I can SO relate to what you're saying here. I'm a work at home mom and I'm constantly struggling to find the time to do things as well as I wish I had the time to do them--if that makes sense. I'd love to be able to give all my work 110% and have a spotless house and spend loads more time with my girls--but there's only so many hours in the day and only so much of me to go around. In the ends I think we moms have to make sure we take the time to fulfill our needs as well. I know there are days when I wish I didn't want a career either so I could devote all my time to the kids and house--but that wouldn't fulfill me. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be fulfilled--in fact I think it's not only important for you as a person but important to show your kids that you are a person too and people should go after their dreams. I hope it all works out for you. I just found this blog but I love it--I'll be back. Take care. <em>Cindy M's last blog post..<a href='http://her-hairstyle-blog.com/2008/04/layered-hair-cuts-why-you-need-one/' rel="nofollow">Layered Hair Cuts: Why You Need One</a></em> Shannon,

I can SO relate to what you’re saying here. I’m a work at home mom and I’m constantly struggling to find the time to do things as well as I wish I had the time to do them–if that makes sense. I’d love to be able to give all my work 110% and have a spotless house and spend loads more time with my girls–but there’s only so many hours in the day and only so much of me to go around.

In the ends I think we moms have to make sure we take the time to fulfill our needs as well. I know there are days when I wish I didn’t want a career either so I could devote all my time to the kids and house–but that wouldn’t fulfill me. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be fulfilled–in fact I think it’s not only important for you as a person but important to show your kids that you are a person too and people should go after their dreams.

I hope it all works out for you. I just found this blog but I love it–I’ll be back. Take care.

Cindy M’s last blog post..Layered Hair Cuts: Why You Need One

]]> By: dak-ind http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-70637 dak-ind Wed, 16 Apr 2008 05:22:03 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-70637 so the honest thing here is that some women want to do more than be wives and mothers, but then, some dont. i am going back to school kicking and screaming the whole way. my son is three (tomorrow) and starting preschool this fall so its time for me to go back and complete my rn adn go back into reality, but if i could, i would take nature walks with my toddler for the rest of my life. i would have little fingers mixing biscuit dough, and i would struggle to have the toys put up before daddy got home for the rest of my life. some folks need more, adn thats OK, too. <em>dak-ind's last blog post..<a href='http://americanairspace.blogspot.com/2008/04/fun-faces.html' rel="nofollow">fun faces:</a></em> so the honest thing here is that some women want to do more than be wives and mothers, but then, some dont. i am going back to school kicking and screaming the whole way. my son is three (tomorrow) and starting preschool this fall so its time for me to go back and complete my rn adn go back into reality, but if i could, i would take nature walks with my toddler for the rest of my life. i would have little fingers mixing biscuit dough, and i would struggle to have the toys put up before daddy got home for the rest of my life. some folks need more, adn thats OK, too.

dak-ind’s last blog post..fun faces:

]]> By: Joanne http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-70619 Joanne Wed, 16 Apr 2008 01:44:04 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-70619 Shannon, although I can't relate to what you're feeling I wanted to just throw something out that you probably know already...your kids are still young...you're a great mom and your children are benefitting from being around you. Before you know it, they'll be older and you'll have more free time. :) Hang in there! <em>Joanne's last blog post..<a href='http://foreverparents.com/2008/04/adoption-lifebook-supplies.html' rel="nofollow">Adoption Lifebook Supplies</a></em> Shannon, although I can’t relate to what you’re feeling I wanted to just throw something out that you probably know already…your kids are still young…you’re a great mom and your children are benefitting from being around you. Before you know it, they’ll be older and you’ll have more free time. :) Hang in there!

Joanne’s last blog post..Adoption Lifebook Supplies

]]> By: NJDrummer http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-69442 NJDrummer Thu, 03 Apr 2008 22:07:45 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-69442 Just a thought from someone not in the same position...albeit with the same passions, ideas, etc. How about collaborating on a project. That way duties can be split between several determined people striving toward a COMMON goal. If you have enough in common w/ your collaborators at the onset, decisions where a concensus is needed will be easier. Just a thought from someone not in the same position…albeit with the same passions, ideas, etc. How about collaborating on a project. That way duties can be split between several determined people striving toward a COMMON goal. If you have enough in common w/ your collaborators at the onset, decisions where a concensus is needed will be easier.

]]> By: Darci http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-69393 Darci Thu, 03 Apr 2008 10:19:09 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-69393 Wow.. I agree with you completely. I just lack the children :) (I found my way here from the blog hunt) Wow.. I agree with you completely. I just lack the children :) (I found my way here from the blog hunt)

]]> By: mrsmogul http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-69303 mrsmogul Wed, 02 Apr 2008 22:27:17 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-69303 I can relate! I know I'm not alone! <em>mrsmogul's last blog post..<a href='http://mrsmogul.blogspot.com/2008/04/sex-tours-and-big-beds.html' rel="nofollow">Sex tours and big beds</a></em> I can relate! I know I’m not alone!

mrsmogul’s last blog post..Sex tours and big beds

]]> By: Adam Hyman http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-69057 Adam Hyman Mon, 31 Mar 2008 20:11:31 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-69057 I've been looking for a post where you talking about why you decided on homeschooling. But can find it. It think its really important to understand why you made that decision to your readers. Maybe you should post a link to it on the main page? (I assume you've written before) I’ve been looking for a post where you talking about why you decided on homeschooling. But can find it. It think its really important to understand why you made that decision to your readers.

Maybe you should post a link to it on the main page?

(I assume you’ve written before)

]]> By: Marye~ http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-69053 Marye~ Mon, 31 Mar 2008 18:18:23 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-69053 Oh crap, is every SAHM in the world in the same boat!?! Do we need some sort of support group for mom's who are more than just moms. Sorry, I don't have any answers. I figured I was just a typical Gemini or that maybe I had Adult ADD. I feel like I've totally lost my identity as Marye to the kids and I only have two of them. I love, I mean LOVE to homeschool my kids, especially when I'm around kids who aren't homeschooled. They aren't very bright about what's going on in the world nor do they have very good social skills. I also miss being the person I was before kids. I think that now that the kids are getting older the old me is starting to reappear and she doesn't like what she sees. Keep us posted on your metamorphoses. <em>Marye~'s last blog post..<a href='http://mypreciouspresent.blogspot.com/2008/03/thinness.html' rel="nofollow">Thinness?</a></em> Oh crap, is every SAHM in the world in the same boat!?! Do we need some sort of support group for mom’s who are more than just moms.
Sorry, I don’t have any answers. I figured I was just a typical Gemini or that maybe I had Adult ADD.
I feel like I’ve totally lost my identity as Marye to the kids and I only have two of them. I love, I mean LOVE to homeschool my kids, especially when I’m around kids who aren’t homeschooled. They aren’t very bright about what’s going on in the world nor do they have very good social skills.
I also miss being the person I was before kids. I think that now that the kids are getting older the old me is starting to reappear and she doesn’t like what she sees. Keep us posted on your metamorphoses.

Marye~’s last blog post..Thinness?

]]> By: Christine http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-69047 Christine Mon, 31 Mar 2008 16:36:30 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-69047 Take this for what it's worth - as you know, my "children" are two dogs and a parrot.... Yes, you are a mother, but that is not your sole identity. You are SHANNON, and being a mother is just one of the may things you are. You are too devoted to your children and love them too much to ever let them fall as a sacrifice to your other passions. Yes, they should always be first, but I don't think it is healthy for you or them to make them the sole focus of you. They need to see you happy, and see how you make yourself happy - that is how they will learn to be happy. Except for brief periods of time, you are with your children 24/7. I don't know how anyone can keep his/her sanity in that situation. Is there a reason you can't work part-time? Is it possible to hire someone to watch your children 2 days a week, while you work uninterrupted? In any case, take care of Shannon, make Shanon happy - and the rest will fall into place. Take this for what it’s worth - as you know, my “children” are two dogs and a parrot….
Yes, you are a mother, but that is not your sole identity. You are SHANNON, and being a mother is just one of the may things you are. You are too devoted to your children and love them too much to ever let them fall as a sacrifice to your other passions. Yes, they should always be first, but I don’t think it is healthy for you or them to make them the sole focus of you. They need to see you happy, and see how you make yourself happy - that is how they will learn to be happy. Except for brief periods of time, you are with your children 24/7. I don’t know how anyone can keep his/her sanity in that situation. Is there a reason you can’t work part-time? Is it possible to hire someone to watch your children 2 days a week, while you work uninterrupted? In any case, take care of Shannon, make Shanon happy - and the rest will fall into place.

]]> By: mj aka sugarmama http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-69044 mj aka sugarmama Mon, 31 Mar 2008 16:11:47 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-69044 Hi Shannon, It has been awhile since I've visited your site and I was excited to see you on board with us in svmoms group! Anyway --- I totally know what you feel. I went through the same thing and with my husband's full 100% support, I was able to go for what I had wanted to do. It lasted for almost 7 years, and then it was time to let it go. I can't say that I failed in it, because I found a bigger reward in actually accomplishing something that I had dreamt of. Good luck and hope you'll figure out what to do. I bet you will! I'll see you around Twitterita! :-) mj aka sugarmama Twitter: mjtam <em>mj aka sugarmama's last blog post..<a href='http://wantsugar.blogspot.com/2008/03/lashed-out-at-top-chef.html' rel="nofollow">Lashed out onTop Chef !</a></em> Hi Shannon,

It has been awhile since I’ve visited your site and I was excited to see you on board with us in svmoms group!

Anyway — I totally know what you feel. I went through the same thing and with my husband’s full 100% support, I was able to go for what I had wanted to do. It lasted for almost 7 years, and then it was time to let it go. I can’t say that I failed in it, because I found a bigger reward in actually accomplishing something that I had dreamt of. Good luck and hope you’ll figure out what to do. I bet you will!

I’ll see you around Twitterita!
:-) mj aka sugarmama
Twitter: mjtam

mj aka sugarmama’s last blog post..Lashed out onTop Chef !

]]> By: Christine http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-68998 Christine Mon, 31 Mar 2008 03:19:21 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-68998 I know, I totally know. The boredom. The needing to fill the void. The guilt. <em>Christine's last blog post..<a href='http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/WatchMeNoWatchMe/~3/259876489/fish-out-of-water.html' rel="nofollow">Fish out of water</a></em> I know, I totally know.

The boredom. The needing to fill the void. The guilt.

Christine’s last blog post..Fish out of water

]]> By: Adam Hyman http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-68989 Adam Hyman Sun, 30 Mar 2008 22:30:42 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-68989 You're passionate about parenting and want to work. Maybe something a bit artsy? Like hand painting chairs? You’re passionate about parenting and want to work.

Maybe something a bit artsy? Like hand painting chairs?

]]> By: Sarah @ Ordinary Days http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-68987 Sarah @ Ordinary Days Sun, 30 Mar 2008 22:21:20 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-68987 I was thinking along these lines today. My niece is just starting out in the world of adulthood and I realized I am following her every career option, housing choice, and even music choices. I now see that I am living vicariously through her. I feel if I did anything besides mothering, I'd be making my kids miss out, but at the same time I kind afeel like something is missing from my life. I'm trying to find the balance, too. <em>Sarah @ Ordinary Days's last blog post..<a href='http://methemama.blogspot.com/2008/03/hot-mama-revolution-giveaway.html' rel="nofollow">Hot Mama Revolution: Giveaway!</a></em> I was thinking along these lines today. My niece is just starting out in the world of adulthood and I realized I am following her every career option, housing choice, and even music choices. I now see that I am living vicariously through her. I feel if I did anything besides mothering, I’d be making my kids miss out, but at the same time I kind afeel like something is missing from my life. I’m trying to find the balance, too.

Sarah @ Ordinary Days’s last blog post..Hot Mama Revolution: Giveaway!

]]> By: Alicia http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-68971 Alicia Sun, 30 Mar 2008 20:20:17 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/03/28/confliction/#comment-68971 I can totally identify. My kids are finally getting old enough to be more independent, and I'm seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. But it has been a long few years of pure mommying, and I'm really surprised when the tears well up when someone tells me what an important thing I'm doing with my kids. Why doesn't it feel like enough?? I can totally identify. My kids are finally getting old enough to be more independent, and I’m seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. But it has been a long few years of pure mommying, and I’m really surprised when the tears well up when someone tells me what an important thing I’m doing with my kids. Why doesn’t it feel like enough??

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