Comments on: The Fine Line Between Coddling and Controlling http://phatmommy.com/2008/01/17/the-fine-line-between-coddling-and-controlling/ Parenting, Homeschooling and Technology Fri, 29 Aug 2008 23:22:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: DeafMom http://phatmommy.com/2008/01/17/the-fine-line-between-coddling-and-controlling/#comment-61514 DeafMom Tue, 22 Jan 2008 21:01:26 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/01/17/the-fine-line-between-coddling-and-controlling/#comment-61514 It's a stage, baby, a stage! Hang on to it, because before you know it, the kiddos will be in high school and wanting to borrow a car. It’s a stage, baby, a stage! Hang on to it, because before you know it, the kiddos will be in high school and wanting to borrow a car.

]]> By: Chris http://phatmommy.com/2008/01/17/the-fine-line-between-coddling-and-controlling/#comment-61420 Chris Mon, 21 Jan 2008 19:28:51 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/01/17/the-fine-line-between-coddling-and-controlling/#comment-61420 In our case, it was just a phase, but it still comes out of remission everyone once in a while. Usually when he's grouchy, sleepy, etc. <em>Chris's last blog post..<a href='http://inanethoughtsandinsaneramblings.blogspot.com/2008/01/quick-hits.html' rel="nofollow">Quick hits</a></em> In our case, it was just a phase, but it still comes out of remission everyone once in a while. Usually when he’s grouchy, sleepy, etc.

Chris’s last blog post..Quick hits

]]> By: Daisy http://phatmommy.com/2008/01/17/the-fine-line-between-coddling-and-controlling/#comment-61245 Daisy Sat, 19 Jan 2008 22:08:25 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/01/17/the-fine-line-between-coddling-and-controlling/#comment-61245 And just when you thought it was safe -- has there been any trauma lately, something that you might have thought was totally normal, but to which she overreacted? Or misinterpreted? Go with your gut reaction. You are Mom, after all, and you'll know what's right. <em>Daisy's last blog post..<a href='http://compostermom.blogspot.com/2008/01/these-pretzels-are-making-me-thirsty.html' rel="nofollow">These pretzels are making me thirsty.</a></em> And just when you thought it was safe — has there been any trauma lately, something that you might have thought was totally normal, but to which she overreacted? Or misinterpreted? Go with your gut reaction. You are Mom, after all, and you’ll know what’s right.

Daisy’s last blog post..These pretzels are making me thirsty.

]]> By: MommyWithAttitude http://phatmommy.com/2008/01/17/the-fine-line-between-coddling-and-controlling/#comment-61237 MommyWithAttitude Sat, 19 Jan 2008 19:10:46 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/01/17/the-fine-line-between-coddling-and-controlling/#comment-61237 I have had a similar experience. My older child wouldn't let anyone touch him but me (and I had to be touching every second of every day) when he was littler and now he acts as if I don't exist. My little one was a really friendly baby and toddler and now he seems kind of clingy and though he does ok at preschool and with a babysitter we hired about 8 months ago, he doesn't really seem to bond with any other adults too much -- he likes his mama. He's 4 (and has been this way since 3)and I just hold him as much as I can and hope he'll outgrow it. If you read any attachment parenting stuff they often say that if the need is met at the time, it will be outgrown, and for the most part I've relied on that - except for those days when I just needed to not be touched for one more second! ;) <em>MommyWithAttitude's last blog post..<a href='http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/MommyWithanAttitude/~3/219237018/diary-of-on-again-off-again-fitness.html' rel="nofollow">Diary of an On-Again Off-Again Fitness Fanatic</a></em> I have had a similar experience. My older child wouldn’t let anyone touch him but me (and I had to be touching every second of every day) when he was littler and now he acts as if I don’t exist. My little one was a really friendly baby and toddler and now he seems kind of clingy and though he does ok at preschool and with a babysitter we hired about 8 months ago, he doesn’t really seem to bond with any other adults too much — he likes his mama. He’s 4 (and has been this way since 3)and I just hold him as much as I can and hope he’ll outgrow it.

If you read any attachment parenting stuff they often say that if the need is met at the time, it will be outgrown, and for the most part I’ve relied on that - except for those days when I just needed to not be touched for one more second! ;)
MommyWithAttitude’s last blog post..Diary of an On-Again Off-Again Fitness Fanatic

]]> By: motherofbun http://phatmommy.com/2008/01/17/the-fine-line-between-coddling-and-controlling/#comment-61149 motherofbun Sat, 19 Jan 2008 00:30:53 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/01/17/the-fine-line-between-coddling-and-controlling/#comment-61149 Yes, methinks she just needs her mommy right now. Its probably just a phase. Isn't that about the time they become more aware of the "world" and that it all seems so big and scarey? I dunno. <em>motherofbun's last blog post..<a href='http://midwesternmommy.com/?p=436' rel="nofollow">For sale: Upholstered Who-hoo</a></em> Yes, methinks she just needs her mommy right now. Its probably just a phase. Isn’t that about the time they become more aware of the “world” and that it all seems so big and scarey? I dunno.

motherofbun’s last blog post..For sale: Upholstered Who-hoo

]]> By: healingmom http://phatmommy.com/2008/01/17/the-fine-line-between-coddling-and-controlling/#comment-61116 healingmom Fri, 18 Jan 2008 16:48:47 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/01/17/the-fine-line-between-coddling-and-controlling/#comment-61116 Awww...the cuddling sounds wonderful; the worry, however, does not. It looks like the bloggers b4 me have given you good advice. You are a wonderful mother, and I'm sure she will be just fine. Try not to worry too much, and let her lead the way with maybe just a little bit of gentle coaxing. She's soooo cute! If I were you, I couldn't resist those cheeks, and I'd cuddle with her as much as I could! She'll be back to being independent soon. She just needs her Phatmommy right now. <em>healingmom's last blog post..<a href='http://aftermathofahealingmom.typepad.com/hope/2008/01/that-which-does.html' rel="nofollow">That Which Doesn't Kill You Now, Might Kill You Later...</a></em> Awww…the cuddling sounds wonderful; the worry, however, does not. It looks like the bloggers b4 me have given you good advice. You are a wonderful mother, and I’m sure she will be just fine. Try not to worry too much, and let her lead the way with maybe just a little bit of gentle coaxing. She’s soooo cute! If I were you, I couldn’t resist those cheeks, and I’d cuddle with her as much as I could! She’ll be back to being independent soon. She just needs her Phatmommy right now.

healingmom’s last blog post..That Which Doesn’t Kill You Now, Might Kill You Later…

]]> By: Heather http://phatmommy.com/2008/01/17/the-fine-line-between-coddling-and-controlling/#comment-61104 Heather Fri, 18 Jan 2008 15:51:07 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/01/17/the-fine-line-between-coddling-and-controlling/#comment-61104 Oh, this too shall pass. That is the hope you have to hang onto on the days you have no freedom, that you're filled with worry for their well being, or guilt for just wanting your children to get through a phase. I myself just long for those days mine wanted to cuddle. They're 11 & 13 now, so cuddling doesn't rank real high on their list right now. I'm more the needy one these days. ;) <em>Heather's last blog post..<a href='http://theeclectichomeschooler.blogspot.com/2008/01/its-factoid-friday_18.html' rel="nofollow">It's Factoid Friday!</a></em> Oh, this too shall pass. That is the hope you have to hang onto on the days you have no freedom, that you’re filled with worry for their well being, or guilt for just wanting your children to get through a phase. I myself just long for those days mine wanted to cuddle. They’re 11 & 13 now, so cuddling doesn’t rank real high on their list right now. I’m more the needy one these days. ;)
Heather’s last blog post..It’s Factoid Friday!

]]> By: Laurel http://phatmommy.com/2008/01/17/the-fine-line-between-coddling-and-controlling/#comment-61058 Laurel Fri, 18 Jan 2008 04:17:22 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/01/17/the-fine-line-between-coddling-and-controlling/#comment-61058 If she's an extrovert, I wouldn't worry too much. Not all kids need pushing to get them out into the world. Perhaps your daughter is going through a stage of growth or maturation when her brain is reorganizing a bit. I'd savor the cuddles and think of it as filling up her love bank. Let her hop off your lap when she's ready. If she’s an extrovert, I wouldn’t worry too much. Not all kids need pushing to get them out into the world. Perhaps your daughter is going through a stage of growth or maturation when her brain is reorganizing a bit. I’d savor the cuddles and think of it as filling up her love bank. Let her hop off your lap when she’s ready.

]]> By: Dana http://phatmommy.com/2008/01/17/the-fine-line-between-coddling-and-controlling/#comment-61042 Dana Fri, 18 Jan 2008 01:27:52 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/01/17/the-fine-line-between-coddling-and-controlling/#comment-61042 I'm so glad you brought this up. Dawson is 3 also, and I want to use the childcare at the gym so I can workout without hiring an outside babysitter. The first attempt was awful. The crying, kicking and screaming was terrible. I couldn't possibly put that nice YMCA caregiver through that. I don't know what to do about this type of situation either. I’m so glad you brought this up. Dawson is 3 also, and I want to use the childcare at the gym so I can workout without hiring an outside babysitter.

The first attempt was awful. The crying, kicking and screaming was terrible. I couldn’t possibly put that nice YMCA caregiver through that. I don’t know what to do about this type of situation either.

]]> By: Joanne http://phatmommy.com/2008/01/17/the-fine-line-between-coddling-and-controlling/#comment-61030 Joanne Thu, 17 Jan 2008 22:49:14 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2008/01/17/the-fine-line-between-coddling-and-controlling/#comment-61030 Shannon...you're a great mom, the love you have for your kids shows in your posts. I would follow her lead right now. After all, the only three. Maybe she's finding all those activites overwheling and wants some down time. :-) <em>Joanne's last blog post..<a href='http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ADayInOurLives/~3/123247029/day-one-hundred-three-talking-to.html' rel="nofollow">Talking To An Unschooled Child</a></em> Shannon…you’re a great mom, the love you have for your kids shows in your posts.

I would follow her lead right now. After all, the only three. Maybe she’s finding all those activites overwheling and wants some down time. :-)
Joanne’s last blog post..Talking To An Unschooled Child

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