Comments on: How Did I Get HERE? Part III http://phatmommy.com/2007/05/17/how-did-i-get-here-part-iii/ Parenting, Homeschooling and Technology Thu, 20 Nov 2008 13:31:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Dana http://phatmommy.com/2007/05/17/how-did-i-get-here-part-iii/#comment-37780 Dana Tue, 29 May 2007 07:11:14 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2007/05/17/how-did-i-get-here-part-iii/#comment-37780 Oy...somehow, someone always hits directly on things I'm pondering. I think it centers on something our culture doesn't accept. Depending on which half of our culture you listen to, women find fulfillment and happiness in a) pursuing career or b) pursuing family. That may work for some, but I don't think it is quite how we were created. They are two halves of the same person, and I don't know that they can be so easily split. Still pondering, but I'd love your thoughts as I try to prepare a post that doesn't turn into a book! Oy…somehow, someone always hits directly on things I’m pondering. I think it centers on something our culture doesn’t accept. Depending on which half of our culture you listen to, women find fulfillment and happiness in a) pursuing career or b) pursuing family. That may work for some, but I don’t think it is quite how we were created. They are two halves of the same person, and I don’t know that they can be so easily split.

Still pondering, but I’d love your thoughts as I try to prepare a post that doesn’t turn into a book!

]]> By: Shawna http://phatmommy.com/2007/05/17/how-did-i-get-here-part-iii/#comment-36999 Shawna Mon, 21 May 2007 15:49:18 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2007/05/17/how-did-i-get-here-part-iii/#comment-36999 I have been searching for homeschooling blogs--never thought I would find one like this! I am really enjoying your writing and thoughts. I am not homeschooling, just thinking about it with/for my youngest son. I used to teach high school and would love the opportunity to HS and I have such an exceptionally bright child. Thanks for putting yourself out there for all of us readers! I have been searching for homeschooling blogs–never thought I would find one like this! I am really enjoying your writing and thoughts.

I am not homeschooling, just thinking about it with/for my youngest son. I used to teach high school and would love the opportunity to HS and I have such an exceptionally bright child.

Thanks for putting yourself out there for all of us readers!

]]> By: Angela http://phatmommy.com/2007/05/17/how-did-i-get-here-part-iii/#comment-36793 Angela Sat, 19 May 2007 16:13:40 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2007/05/17/how-did-i-get-here-part-iii/#comment-36793 Thanks you for your honesty in sharing your stories. I find myself where you are and have been a lot. It is amazingly good to know that these thoughts have bounced around in at least one other person's head too. Thanks you for your honesty in sharing your stories. I find myself where you are and have been a lot. It is amazingly good to know that these thoughts have bounced around in at least one other person’s head too.

]]> By: Melissa http://phatmommy.com/2007/05/17/how-did-i-get-here-part-iii/#comment-36790 Melissa Sat, 19 May 2007 15:44:34 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2007/05/17/how-did-i-get-here-part-iii/#comment-36790 I love your blog! You always make me think! I love your blog! You always make me think!

]]> By: Suburban Oblivion http://phatmommy.com/2007/05/17/how-did-i-get-here-part-iii/#comment-36747 Suburban Oblivion Sat, 19 May 2007 04:00:55 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2007/05/17/how-did-i-get-here-part-iii/#comment-36747 Amen to that Judy. I am NOT a homeschooler, because I know my limits. I have a short attention span, and because it's not something I would care to do, I'd SUCK at it. Kudos to those who can though. Amen to that Judy.

I am NOT a homeschooler, because I know my limits. I have a short attention span, and because it’s not something I would care to do, I’d SUCK at it. Kudos to those who can though.

]]> By: Judy http://phatmommy.com/2007/05/17/how-did-i-get-here-part-iii/#comment-36728 Judy Sat, 19 May 2007 00:16:47 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2007/05/17/how-did-i-get-here-part-iii/#comment-36728 Part of the problem is that we've been seduced into believing the nonsense that we can "have it all" be wife, mother, successful businessmom etc. all at the same time... I have lived in the corporate world, raised three beautiful children, homeschooled them and had my own business.. but not all at the same time.. it's been great .. all of it.. but I couldn't go back to the corporate gig nor do I want to have babies again.. been there done that..now as my kids are older I am on a new mission to look for what I want to do now.. (I mean "next") Opportunity is just around the corner and I'll be ready. Part of the problem is that we’ve been seduced into believing the nonsense that we can “have it all” be wife, mother, successful businessmom etc. all at the same time… I have lived in the corporate world, raised three beautiful children, homeschooled them and had my own business.. but not all at the same time.. it’s been great .. all of it.. but I couldn’t go back to the corporate gig nor do I want to have babies again.. been there done that..now as my kids are older I am on a new mission to look for what I want to do now.. (I mean “next”) Opportunity is just around the corner and I’ll be ready.

]]> By: mom blog http://phatmommy.com/2007/05/17/how-did-i-get-here-part-iii/#comment-36712 mom blog Fri, 18 May 2007 21:34:47 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2007/05/17/how-did-i-get-here-part-iii/#comment-36712 In the beginning, I thought homeschooling was for my family but my son will actually be starting kindergarten in August. I'm kind of sad but I also think it's best for us right now as I really want this year to be the year that I really grow my business! you have to do what is best for you and your family. And, I agree..they are 3 very different things! In the beginning, I thought homeschooling was for my family but my son will actually be starting kindergarten in August. I’m kind of sad but I also think it’s best for us right now as I really want this year to be the year that I really grow my business!

you have to do what is best for you and your family. And, I agree..they are 3 very different things!

]]> By: Angela, Mother Crone http://phatmommy.com/2007/05/17/how-did-i-get-here-part-iii/#comment-36642 Angela, Mother Crone Fri, 18 May 2007 07:03:49 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2007/05/17/how-did-i-get-here-part-iii/#comment-36642 Wow! What a revelation! Homeschooling is not for everyone, just like being a stay-at-home mom is not for everyone. The hardest part are the years when they are young and you feel like your life becomes a constant surrender to their schedules, moods, and needs. I went through periods when I was certain it would be much more fulfilling for me when I could put out effort and get great returns because the only variable was my work ethic. I am glad now that I stuck with it, as I have grown so much in the process. I am interested to hear the rest of your plans and revelations. Wow! What a revelation! Homeschooling is not for everyone, just like being a stay-at-home mom is not for everyone. The hardest part are the years when they are young and you feel like your life becomes a constant surrender to their schedules, moods, and needs. I went through periods when I was certain it would be much more fulfilling for me when I could put out effort and get great returns because the only variable was my work ethic. I am glad now that I stuck with it, as I have grown so much in the process. I am interested to hear the rest of your plans and revelations.

]]> By: Heather http://phatmommy.com/2007/05/17/how-did-i-get-here-part-iii/#comment-36634 Heather Fri, 18 May 2007 06:10:12 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2007/05/17/how-did-i-get-here-part-iii/#comment-36634 I feel like this a lot. I don't really feel trapped in the roles of teacher and mother, since I chose them, but I do often wonder if that's ALL I get to be. Mother. Wife. Teacher.... that's it?? I am more than the sum of my parts. I am constantly on the lookout for something I can do for just myself. Just wanted to chime in and say that I agree with you. I wouldn't give up parenting, marriage or homeschooling for anything, but I don't think it's selfish to want something else too. I feel like this a lot. I don’t really feel trapped in the roles of teacher and mother, since I chose them, but I do often wonder if that’s ALL I get to be. Mother. Wife. Teacher…. that’s it?? I am more than the sum of my parts. I am constantly on the lookout for something I can do for just myself. Just wanted to chime in and say that I agree with you. I wouldn’t give up parenting, marriage or homeschooling for anything, but I don’t think it’s selfish to want something else too.

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