Comments on: Family Dynamics http://phatmommy.com/2006/11/family-dynamics/ Parenting, Homeschooling and Technology Fri, 12 Mar 2010 05:30:44 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Lindsey http://phatmommy.com/2006/11/family-dynamics/comment-page-1/#comment-16177 Lindsey Thu, 07 Dec 2006 01:34:20 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2006/11/27/family-dynamics/#comment-16177 I think that all parents tend to think like you are right now. My mom went through the same thing. Most parents have a strong connection with one child and not such a strong connection with the other. I think that all parents tend to think like you are right now. My mom went through the same thing. Most parents have a strong connection with one child and not such a strong connection with the other.

]]> By: Mary Tsao http://phatmommy.com/2006/11/family-dynamics/comment-page-1/#comment-15330 Mary Tsao Thu, 30 Nov 2006 00:28:39 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2006/11/27/family-dynamics/#comment-15330 I am aware that I do this same thing. I have much less tolerance for acting up when it's my daughter misbehaving than when it's my son. Ahhh! It makes me feel horrible. I try very hard not to play favorites, but I feel it's so obvious. I can only imagine the fights in the tween/teen years. Oye. I am aware that I do this same thing. I have much less tolerance for acting up when it’s my daughter misbehaving than when it’s my son. Ahhh! It makes me feel horrible. I try very hard not to play favorites, but I feel it’s so obvious.

I can only imagine the fights in the tween/teen years. Oye.

]]> By: Angela, Mother Crone http://phatmommy.com/2006/11/family-dynamics/comment-page-1/#comment-15092 Angela, Mother Crone Tue, 28 Nov 2006 13:37:04 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2006/11/27/family-dynamics/#comment-15092 I find this so interesting. I have struggled for years, albeit with the opposite situation. I have much more patience with Girlfriend, for she is like my DH- level and practical in her personality. She is fun, somewhat quiet, and very witty. Scout is like me, or the me I am always working to conquer...know-it-all, stubborn, self-absorbed center of the universe. I have so much less tolerance for those traits in him, because it reminds me of all the things about myself I work so hard to get away from! I think, just being aware of it is going to help you to react differently and more positively. I often need to take the "deep breath before responding" approach with Scout...and it has made our relationship all the better! I find this so interesting. I have struggled for years, albeit with the opposite situation. I have much more patience with Girlfriend, for she is like my DH- level and practical in her personality. She is fun, somewhat quiet, and very witty. Scout is like me, or the me I am always working to conquer…know-it-all, stubborn, self-absorbed center of the universe. I have so much less tolerance for those traits in him, because it reminds me of all the things about myself I work so hard to get away from!
I think, just being aware of it is going to help you to react differently and more positively. I often need to take the “deep breath before responding” approach with Scout…and it has made our relationship all the better!

]]> By: Deanna http://phatmommy.com/2006/11/family-dynamics/comment-page-1/#comment-15016 Deanna Tue, 28 Nov 2006 03:45:44 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2006/11/27/family-dynamics/#comment-15016 Oh man! You just described our family (but with an added child). My sone and I (both first born) are the same. I also tend to empathise more with him then with my daurghter who is more like my husband (middle children). It is crazy how that happens. I try to balance it by talking to my husband about her behavior so I can better understand. I also take more time, when we are getting along, to just talk with her and find out what she is thinking, what makes her tick, so to speak. I think it helps me see where she is coming from...but believe me I am not looking forward to the teen years! Good Luck! Oh man! You just described our family (but with an added child). My sone and I (both first born) are the same. I also tend to empathise more with him then with my daurghter who is more like my husband (middle children). It is crazy how that happens. I try to balance it by talking to my husband about her behavior so I can better understand. I also take more time, when we are getting along, to just talk with her and find out what she is thinking, what makes her tick, so to speak. I think it helps me see where she is coming from…but believe me I am not looking forward to the teen years!

Good Luck!

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