Happy New Year
// 1.2.06 // Filed under: Thriving
I don’t make New Year’s resolutions anymore. They used to be a big deal for me. I’d spend weeks examining my life and deciding what needed to be “fixed.” What a waste of time. I love self-improvement-type stuff, but I’ve recently realized (shit, it only took me 36 years) that I always have the same resolutions. Eat better. Exercise. Stop whining. Be a better example for my children. Be happy. I mean, duh.
What I really need to do is be honest with myself. There is a reason why these things are not “working” in my life. The reason is that it is just easier to complain about it than to do something about it. It’s easier to walk around whining and wondering why some magical potion can not be invented to Cinderella-up my life. What? Me? You mean I’ve actually got to be responsible for what happens to me? Huh?
You can see I’m definitely not in any Auld Lang Syne mood here, getting all weepy about what a great year it’s been and the promise of the future. No, I am in the mood for reality. The reality that I have some tough decisions ahead of me. Do I want to die young of some sugar-and-lack-of-exercise-induced disease? Do I want to be void of energy so my children remember me saying “I’m just too tired for that now?” Do I want my family to be continually exposed to my grumpiness?
It’s not easy to change personality traits that have been ingrained for years. I’ve lived like this for (nearly) the first half of my life. I don’t want to spend the last half the same way.
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I’m with you on the resolution thing. It’s pointless and sometimes too overwhelming to even contemplate. I prefer the *one day at a time* approach. Reality isn’t my favorite place, but since I MUST live here (ha-ha), I find being gentle with myself instead of beating myself up, is more productive.
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Dunkin’ Donuts Rocks! Had 2 vanilla cremes on New Years Day and bought a pound of the beans to take home!! WOOHOO~! Instant gratification at its finest!
Good for you, Shannon! I’ve never been a “new-year-resolutioner”. The idea is a nice one, but far more than setting little goals for themselves (ones that are usually outside a person’s larger moral picture and thus destined to go unachieved and then re-set year after year), what people really need is to develop a general sense of accountability and self-responsibility (as well as their own rationally-developed morality) so that they can understand how to create for themselves a life that makes them happy.
I hope that this is the year that you can look back and experience pride for taking a better, more conscious responsibility for the course of your life. Your self-esteem will skyrocket if you can accept that it is you who has both the power and responsibility to *think* so that you can determine your values and make the choices appropriate to achieving those values. This will likely include rejecting any lingering sense of “duty” to achieve any particular goal and will require you to actually explicitly examine your beliefs, expectations, and values.
Lance and I have talked about how we’d like to make you a lovely embroidered wall-hanging that you’d see every day. It would read in bold letters: “Nobody is coming”. I think that about sums it up.