Comments on: Happy New Year http://phatmommy.com/2006/01/02/happy-new-year/ Parenting, Homeschooling and Technology Fri, 29 Aug 2008 23:12:49 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: trixie http://phatmommy.com/2006/01/02/happy-new-year/#comment-3654 trixie Tue, 03 Jan 2006 22:39:00 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2006/01/02/happy-new-year/#comment-3654 Good for you, Shannon! I've never been a "new-year-resolutioner". The idea is a nice one, but far more than setting little goals for themselves (ones that are usually outside a person's larger moral picture and thus destined to go unachieved and then re-set year after year), what people really need is to develop a general sense of accountability and self-responsibility (as well as their own rationally-developed morality) so that they can understand how to create for themselves a life that makes them happy. I hope that this is the year that you can look back and experience pride for taking a better, more conscious responsibility for the course of your life. Your self-esteem will skyrocket if you can accept that it is you who has both the power and responsibility to *think* so that you can determine your values and make the choices appropriate to achieving those values. This will likely include rejecting any lingering sense of "duty" to achieve any particular goal and will require you to actually explicitly examine your beliefs, expectations, and values. Lance and I have talked about how we'd like to make you a lovely embroidered wall-hanging that you'd see every day. It would read in bold letters: "Nobody is coming". I think that about sums it up. Good for you, Shannon! I’ve never been a “new-year-resolutioner”. The idea is a nice one, but far more than setting little goals for themselves (ones that are usually outside a person’s larger moral picture and thus destined to go unachieved and then re-set year after year), what people really need is to develop a general sense of accountability and self-responsibility (as well as their own rationally-developed morality) so that they can understand how to create for themselves a life that makes them happy.

I hope that this is the year that you can look back and experience pride for taking a better, more conscious responsibility for the course of your life. Your self-esteem will skyrocket if you can accept that it is you who has both the power and responsibility to *think* so that you can determine your values and make the choices appropriate to achieving those values. This will likely include rejecting any lingering sense of “duty” to achieve any particular goal and will require you to actually explicitly examine your beliefs, expectations, and values.

Lance and I have talked about how we’d like to make you a lovely embroidered wall-hanging that you’d see every day. It would read in bold letters: “Nobody is coming”. I think that about sums it up.

]]> By: Jess http://phatmommy.com/2006/01/02/happy-new-year/#comment-3653 Jess Tue, 03 Jan 2006 16:53:00 +0000 http://phatmommy.com/2006/01/02/happy-new-year/#comment-3653 I'm with you on the resolution thing. It's pointless and sometimes too overwhelming to even contemplate. I prefer the *one day at a time* approach. Reality isn't my favorite place, but since I MUST live here (ha-ha), I find being gentle with myself instead of beating myself up, is more productive. P.S. Dunkin' Donuts Rocks! Had 2 vanilla cremes on New Years Day and bought a pound of the beans to take home!! WOOHOO~! Instant gratification at its finest! I’m with you on the resolution thing. It’s pointless and sometimes too overwhelming to even contemplate. I prefer the *one day at a time* approach. Reality isn’t my favorite place, but since I MUST live here (ha-ha), I find being gentle with myself instead of beating myself up, is more productive.
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Dunkin’ Donuts Rocks! Had 2 vanilla cremes on New Years Day and bought a pound of the beans to take home!! WOOHOO~! Instant gratification at its finest!

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